How many times have you heard the expression, “Awe, he ain’t no count. He’s in and out of jail all the time.”


How many of these young people do you really know? How many times have you taken the time to get to know an addict or a “soon to be” addict if they continue on the road they have chosen?
Sometimes a loving kind word might influence someone to think again about what he is doing to himself. Maybe or maybe not but it is worth a try. I have seen few addicts that would not accept love if it is offered to him. Many think nobody on earth loves them whether it is true or not they turn to drugs to have friends and, indeed, all addicts have friends as long as they have drugs or the money to buy them.
I don’t know, like everyone else, what the answer is to why people start doing drugs. Many say it is to forget something traumatic that has happened to them, things they had no part in but feel guilty anyway and because they cannot forget the guilt they feel they start doing drugs. I have seen people get into recovery when they finally see they had no part in what happened to them and that God loves them and wants them to come to Him and let Him give them peace. If only we could convince them all of this.
A lack of self-esteem is another big reason they do drugs, a lack of respect for themselves.
There are a number of reasons for this. We think, a big reason is the lack of compliments unless they do something that will make us look good–star ball player, all as so we can say, “atta boy!” or “that’s my kid out there.” Of course we are all ecstatic when our children excel at something and that is normal but let them know you are proud of them for just being the sweet person they are. Maybe they don’t excel at sports. Don’t make a big deal out of that.
Make a big deal out of what a sweet person they are and tell them God is proud of them and you are, too. Let them know how important they are to you, that God chose them to be your son or daughter and you thank God for him or her. That personal bonding is the most important thing in a child’s life. They need to remember us as having fun and a good relationship with them not someone who is always nagging; nothing you do is good enough. People have told me they would do a good job at something and the parents response would be “Yep, but you can do better if you try harder.” Nothing you can say will damage your child’s self esteem any more than never being satisfied with anything he does. I had a childhood friend who would get a whipping if she brought home any grade below an A. We all encourage our children to excel and we should but there is a big difference in encouraging and haranguing them.
We need to be kind to everyone around us, including young people. Kindness can work miracles. There are days we could all use a kind word even if we do act grumpy. That includes children.
How someone is treated as a child can influence how he reacts as an adult. Sometimes a young person remains angry for years because of something or someone who was unkind to him when he was young.
(This is a re-run but we feel so strongly about this we may run it again from time to time. Let your child know you are proud of him just for being himself).

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